mYinG Avenue: November 2008

i have a new Poll now!!

me and my other friends were talking about ... Christmas Party in town !!

we need more ideas on the costume to wear for Christmas Theme Party.(tis might be a so-called custome party or fancy dress party..v gonna have sumting special b4 december ends rite??!! u guys sure agree about tis rite..lol..so tis is d special thingy here..and i reli hope it reali works out! so..nid every1 cooperation here as it's not a easy event to manage..thx!)

There is no free-theme for this moment and v nid all of your help!

so everyone please think carefully before you VOTE. give us more ideas.

if we have Christmas Party in town , sure you will be the first to be invited.is my pleasure.thank you.if you have any else ideas, please leave it in my Cbox.

everyone please vote this new poll.**huggss**

Men and women (every1 can take a look of tis):
- We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways-the ways we react and behave when we love someone.
- When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.
- Man and Women languages had the same words, but the way they were used gave different meanings.
- In relationships, men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others.
- When negative feelings are suppressed, positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.
- Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while woman want understanding.
- By supporting her need to be heard, she could support his need to be free.
- Fulfilling a primary need is required before one is able fully to receive and appreciate the other kinds of love.
- Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element.
- Most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within five minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing.
- Intimidation always weakens trust in a relationship.
- Most arguments escalate when a man begins to invalidate a woman’s feelings and she responds to him disapprovingly.
- The most common way women unknowingly start arguments is by not being direct when they share their feelings.
- To grow in our ability to love ourselves we nid to receive love as well.
- When you take the time to listen to your feelings you are in effect saying to the little feeling person inside “You matter. You deserve to be heard and I care enough to listen.”
- On Venus their motto is, “LOVE is never having to ask!”
- It is a paradox: bcoz you feel safe with your partner, your deepest fears have a chance to surface. When they surface you become afraid and are unable to share what you feel.

All about women (guys, pls read tis) :
- A women's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationship.
- Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems.
- To feel beta, women get together and openly talk about their problems.
- A woman under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.
- To forget her own painful feelings a woman may become emotionaly involved in the problems of others.
- A woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems.
- Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
- Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.
- The biggest challenge for women is correctly to interpret and support a man when he isn't talking.
- A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.
- A woman's self-esteem rises and falls like a wave. When she hits bottom it is a time for emotional housecleaning.
- As a woman’s financial needs are fulfilled, she becomes more aware of her emotional needs.
- When a woman keeps score, no matter how big or small a gift of love is, it scores one point; each gift has equal value.
- If a woman is not asking for support, a man assumes he is giving enough.

All about men (gurls, pls read tis) : - A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results
- To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know wat to do or that he can't do it on his own.
- A man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.
- To feel beta, men go to their caves to solve problems alone
- A man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem.
- Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed
- Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.
- It is difficult for a man to listen to a woman when she is unhappy or disappointed bcz he feels like a failure.
- When a man is silent it is easy for a woman to imagine the worst.
- Never go into a man's cave or you will be burned by the dragon!
- It is very difficult for a man to differenciate btw empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.
- When a man loves a woman, periodically he nids to pull away b4 he can get closer.
- A man automatically alternates btw needing intimacy and autonomy.
- To a certain extent a man loses himself through connecting with his partner.
- It puts too much pressure on a man to make him the only source of love and support.

- A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a woman’s primary love needs, and she feels happy and secure, that she should know from then on that she is loved.
- The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him or improve him.
- The best way to help a man grow is to let go of trying to change him in any way.

- Men rarely say “I’m sorry” bcz it means you’ve done smting wrong and you’re apologizing.

- Men are most prone to argue when they’ve made a mistake or upset the woman they love.

- Certainly a man also requires equal participation from a woman in doing the domestic duties of day-to-day life, but if he is not appreciated, then her contribution is nearly meaningless and completely unimportant to him.
- If a man has made a mistake and feels embarrassed, sorry, or ashamed, then he nids her love more.. The bigger the mistake, the more points he give.
- When a man is in a negative state,… treat him like a passing tornado and lie low.
- When a man hears a demanding tone, no matter how nicely you phrase your request, all he hears is that he is not giving enough. His tendency is then to give less until you appreciate what he is already giving.
- When asking a man for support, assume that he doesn’t have to be convinced.
- Men are much more willing to say yes if they have the freedom to say no.